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My 3 Step Year End Process

As someone who prides herself on taking action all the time, I find this a really powerful time of year to simply slow down and reflect.

Every year I do an Annual Review of sorts and share it publicly on my blog. I find this cathartic and really valuable to share with you – because my default is share and teach what I learn with others.

I also personally love learning from others, and what worked for them during the year, what they’d do differently and what their key takeaways from.

Typically it makes me feel more connected to them as a person and to appreciate that we’re all human, we all make mistakes, screw things up, have our doubts and fears.

And that despite all this, we act in the face of adversity, we commit to create value, we strive for meaning, we meet challenges head on and we turn up to the important tasks, day in and day out….

Aside from those days where we simply lay around snoozing, reading and lazing because we can or we decide to head out into the sunshine on an adventure and let loose.

I digress!

This year, I’m giving myself more space than ever to reflect as 2018 has been a year that really served up some tough challenges for me professionally, which then hit me personally.

Over the past few weeks, Josh and I have been carving out time to do our end of year Life Pilot reflection and then setting our intentions for the year ahead, and our goals for the first quarter.

A Simple Process to Close Out The Year

I wanted to share the process that Josh and I are using to close out 2018 and make sure we celebrate it.

Step 1: Consult our Life Pilot Spreadsheet to get a visual on our entire life for the year.

It’s simple yet powerful and it’s been made much easier thanks to our Life Pilot spreadsheet.

Being able to scroll back through our 3 most important daily actions, weekly goals, monthly and quarterly intentions has given us an instant look at how our year really was in 2018.

And there ain’t no hiding from that data!

The colour coding on our Life Pilot spreadsheet also gives us a great visual summary of how we did across all our areas of life too – did we hit, progress or miss those important actions and goals?

Which areas of life showed up most and did any of them dominate?

Our areas we chose are: Personal Growth, Relationships, Health, Impact, Lifestyle, Financial, Work and Habits.

From this we’re able to deduce what went well, what we did and jog our memory about what really mattered, or what we may have forgotten that we experienced or achieved.

Step 2: Do a walk and talk reflecting on the year and summarize, reminisce and share.

We love to walk and talk, it stimulates our minds being out in nature and we both like to talk things out. I then like to capture this in a tool like Evernote.

And here’s exactly what I wrote down, no edits:

Jan/ Feb – Gold Coast, wedding, friends

Feb – Angel (as in getting our second adorable White German Shepherd Puppy!)

Mar – E-commerce idea of Poochable

Apr –  Launched $3K in 3 Months e-commerce lab.

May – Brisbane trip for Michelle’s 60th. Book project resurrect.

June – Portugal, Frisbee, Life Pilot first launch.

July – Life Pilot second launch, book prep, Better Work Together book. Enspiral winter retreat – walk with Anna to commit to becoming triathlon training buddies.

August – Freedom Plan book and program focus, second e-commerce course run, Life Pilot.

September – Freedom Plan course Launch and operational fail. Tri training.

October – Freedom Plan Accelerator horrible launch, Rotorua seasonal dreaming. Financial focus, book prep. Tri coach start.

November – Book launch, denial and work through, confidence crisis. Tri coaching start. First Splash n dash event.

December – Slump, discussions, clarity, job parameters, refresh of attitude. Gisborne scope trip. Total reframe. Happiness.

There’s a lot more that went on in the year obviously but at a high level these were the highlights and lowlights.

Step 3: Do the deep introspective work and learn the lessons.

Had I stopped there I think the process would be lame. I would be stripping myself from all the gold nuggets I can take away from a year that on every front apart from business (and therefore finances), was quite wonderful.

The fact that I let the business front so dominate my end of year thoughts on how the whole year went, was saying a lot in itself.

With more digging, I got to stand back and celebrate more than just coming through a tough period. I also got to take the lessons learned and really truly use them as a force for good in my life.

In keeping with the ‘no more than 3 things’ Life Pilot methodology, and in reviewing others’ processes (hat tip to Marie Forleo and Denise Duffield), we simply ask ourselves the following three questions, and write out our answers:

  • What things did you do this year that you’re proud of?
  • What were the biggest lessons you learned this year?
  • What one limiting story are you ready to let go of before 2019?
Photo is of me, slightly tipsy after a jug of sangria Josh and I consumed during a Life Pilot Reflection session in Baleal, Portugal in June 2018. This photo sums up the good things in life for me – beach, sunshine, surfing, blue sky, bare feet on sand, bright colours and a flag that has a purpose and gives you a direction!

What things did I do that I’m proud of this year?

Had I answered this question at the start of December the list would have been limited and I would have been hard on myself.

But as I’ve reflected and released, and got told by a coach to create a brag book, many more things came to light.

  • Spending 5 months rewriting parts of my book and working on the launch plan for it
  • Publishing and launching my new Freedom Plan book and complementary Accelerator
  • My book becoming a No #1 New Release in Amazon’s Women and Business Category, and a Top 10 Kindle book in Entrepreneurship
  • Launching an eCommerce course while taking my first attempt to launch an eCommerce business selling ethical dog products – starting with the Poochable Frisbee
  • Deciding to end my podcast after 7 years and knowing what an impact it made
  • Turning our Life Planning tool and methodology that Josh and I created into an experience, challenge and course others could transform their life with – which was also the first thing I’ve done jointly and launched with Josh
  • Learning how to work with Josh in a way that felt enjoyable and harmonious
  • Playing my fave Beach Ultimate Frisbee tournament in Portugal with dear friends, and seeing Josh enjoy his first ever time playing – so proud of him.
  • Continuing to learn how to be a great puppy mum and committing to building a great relationship with Kayla and Angel (while simultaneously falling more in love with them)
  • Contributing to the Gift Economy by volunteering more of my time, energy and experience to projects and people including Enspiral, friends and mentoring through the Cherie Blair Foundation for Women
  • Going to my first ever Tony Robbins event (despite my conflicting thoughts) and being thoroughly glad I did – I talked about this amazing experience in my vlog here.
  • Hitting 10,000 subscribers on my YouTube Channel despite not maintaining a regular rhythm of releasing videos
  • Deciding (on somewhat of a whim thanks to Claire) to start training for Sprint Triathlons as a long term mission to improve my health, mindset and physical performance
  • Learning more about gardening and trees and continuing to create a magical place and home on our property Kairangi Haven
  • Making new friends and nurturing a quality community of people locally
  • Mentoring a wonderful bunch of women Entrepreneurs through Triple Twist with my wonderful partner in crime Julie Treanor
  • Being part of two New Frontiers events, meeting incredible changemakers and being asked to impromptu MC one of the days
  • Learning how to be a better person in my relationship with Josh, and sharing this growth with each other while deepening our love and respect.
  • Letting go of my past success to make way for the new (even if it was freaking painful)

What were the biggest lessons you learned this year?

I learned (and often the hard way), that you:

  • must never stop learning and growing
  • must never do work that doesn’t align with your innermost values
  • must never get trapped in the comparison game and lose sight of your uniqueness
  • you can’t judge your success on your past self
  • you can change your thoughts, beliefs and behaviour by changing your state – in an instant!

Stemming from this overarching ass-walloping lesson, is to act decisively when things don’t go as planned, don’t get stuck in ‘business as usual’ and don’t over outsource!

On that note you might enjoy my recent post about How I saved $3,000 on Tools and Technology for One Hour of Work.

What one limiting story are you ready to let go of before 2019?

My past identity does not predict my future success.

I’ve battled with this one all year. If I’m really honest, this has been the root cause of a lot of my challenges ever since I ‘stopped’ being the Suitcase Entrepreneur and made a 180 degree life change.

I’ve written and podcasted about this extensively. I simply did not realize that too much change is dangerous until it was too late.

And it’s affected me for close to two years.

Thankfully I’ve eaten humble pie, I’ve done and will continue to do the deep work to understand this and how it affects you, and I feel I’ve come out the other end with some amazing insights.

As Leo Babauta said in this post, you need to Train in Uncertainty.

When you get comfortable with something, you have to give it up. When you think you know something, you have to toss it out. When you walk through life with concepts, you have to let those concepts go and see things with fresh eyes.

That’s why I’m open to there being more lessons that I need to learn and am happy to experience them fully!

This year I realized that I can be soft and accepting of myself (and others) while being motivated and driven. I just need to keep those parts of me that are true to me but balance them better.

 

To close out this year, I am deeply grateful for all the wonderful experiences and quality people who I’ve spent time with and learned from.

I’m thankful to have rediscovered parts of myself that were laying dormant and I appreciate, more than ever, that I shall always be a student of life.

Here we come 2019. I’m ready for you, more than you will ever know!

8 Ways To Use IGTV For Your Business and Brand

I’m a big fan of testing new technology, particularly new innovations like IGTV, that are going to make an impact in our everyday lives.

So when Instagram announced IGTV I knew I couldn’t ignore it.

They are essentially rivalling YouTube, and what is amazing and scary at the same time is that Instagram now has 1 billion users, since starting in 2010.

Compare that with YouTube that has 1.9 billion users, but started in 2005.

What the heck is IGTV?

It stands for Instagram TV.

If you haven’t yet seen it in action, you can now create your own channel through the Instagram app or watch via a dedicated IGTV app or your PC/ or laptop.

You can start posting vertical videos, yes native vertical videos, right away.

That make so much sense given everything we do on mobile is in portrait/ vertical format – apps we use, messages we post, texts we receive, podcasts we listen to, and books we read – all in vertical mode which is how our smartphones work.

And we are addicted to our smartphones!

According to a blog post on BiznessApps for 2018:

1. As of August 2017, there are over 3.5 billion unique mobile internet users. Source: Statista

2. Users spend on average 69% of their media time on smartphones. Source: comScore

3. Mobile devices will drive 80% of global internet usage. Source: Zenith

4. 50% of the time individuals spend on digital media is on mobile apps. Source: Comscore

​Ahhhh that’s nuts!

​With this in mind I have an inkling that Instagram – AKA Facebook since they now own it, and their move to create IGTV, is a very smart one.

​How can you use IGTV effectively

It’s very easy to use, and videos don’t have to be as ‘polished’ as they’ve become on YouTube for many influencers, content creators and brands, but you can make them look less raw than Instagram stories.

Here is my first IGTV attempt from the Beach of Baleal yesterday, introducing myself and sharing why I love the Freedom that Portugal has.

And this one from today, from my living room in my house in Atouguia de Baleia, with 5 Fun Facts about me (and the hope you will share one about yourself in the comments so I can learn more about you!).

Like any form of social media you need to put strategic thought behind what you are doing. 

IGTV may, or may not be the right platform for you, but it’s definitely worth trying if you already produce content on your blog, Facebook, LinkedIn, YouTube, or podcast, OR if you’ve really not embraced any other platform yet.

You just record them on your phone, and can use a video editor like Quik, to make them look a bit better or add in other footage and music, for example, then upload them to IGTV direct from your phone.

A few fun facts:

  • If you have a large following you get up to one hour upload length, but for us mere mortals it’s 10 minutes – which in my mind, is frankly long enough.
  • You can add multiple links in the description to drive traffic to your website! This is huge, and something I didn’t do in my first two videos…oops!
  • If you click those links above to my videos, you will see you can open them up on a PC or laptop too, even if you’re not on Instagram.

I really like this last point, as it means more people can find out about you, your work and what you stand for, without being limited to having to be on Instagram.

I must admit I ​personally like this tool as I love documenting and sharing on the go, but don’t always have wifi, especially when you’re traveling, so being able to capture videos on the spot, but upload them later, is liberating.

Sometimes the inspiration strikes and you just want to share some wisdom, insights, your innermost thoughts, some motivation or an epiphany. Or perhaps your latest dance moves!

I say this because as I surfed through IGTV popular I was frankly amazed at the international uptake of this tool – Russia, India, Brazil ..and of course Will Smith (who recently started vlogging on YouTube) with hundreds of thousands or millions of views already on their IGTV videos. 

Many of these were dancing or music videos, or simply people having fun lip-syncing to their fave tunes, something I definitely feel like busting out!

I highly recommend you focus on the following with IGTV:

  1. Always provide value – insight, tips, strategy or wisdom – with a personal touch. Give, give, give.
  2. If you don’t feel in the mood or ready for 1. then be entertaining – bring joy, humour and happiness into peoples’ lives.
  3. Create awareness around what you actually do, introduce yourself and tell people who you serve and what your why is.
  4. Showcase your work in a fun way or have others do it for you- I’ve seen video testimonials already and feedback with customers in an video interview style from Kimra Luna who’s in launch mode.
  5. Repurpose your work – James Wedmore is using it to share his podcast directly, others are taking their horizontal videos and editing or simply putting into a vertical background.
  6. Stand out – grab your instagram stories and roll them into one interesting video with music using the Quick app or Vue.
  7. Treat it like a Facebook live and post your video to your Facebook page or group after for more interaction.
  8. Always include a CTA (call to action) back to your website, or products, or a piece of content that they can learn further from.

I hope that’s given you some insights into how use this new tool effectively.

If you shy away from social media completely, know that it’s here to stay – and has been since 2004 when Facebook started, but that you don’t have to be the face of your business to use it effectively.

Audio, product demonstrations, customer reviews…these are just some of the ways to be active and engaged without it being all about you.

If you’re an influencer, personal brand, coach, consultant, advisor….oh YES you know you need to get on this now, or continue to stick with using the tool you’re getting the best results from already, but always think about how you can improve on what you’re doing.

The world doesn’t need more crap content, but it does need more of your gifts. So get them out there!​

Your Word. Your Year

Every year, I pick one word that becomes my theme for the year.

This one word represents what I want to focus on. In previous years it’s been freedom, growth, clarity and focus.

You’d think one measly word wouldn’t make much of a difference to your life, but I have to tell you….it’s a game changer!

Whenever you’re off track, it helps you come back to focus in on what’s important, what matters, and what you really want out of your year.

In this episode I reveal:

  • My word for 2018 (and why people laughed at it)
  • My new quest to vlog like a boss
  • A great audio and book resource I’m using to learn to vlog like a boss
  • Why this is the year to OWN it (and put on your grown up panties)

Listen and learn my friend….or just be entertained.

Key resources to check out:

 

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3 Juicy Tips for Designing Your Dream Lifestyle

When you’ve reached the final stages of constructing your ideal lifestyle vision, you are going to start working on the most important factor of your transition into a life of freedom: the plan.

Your plan, complete with goals, tasks, and deadlines, is going to usher you into your ideal lifestyle. It is going to help you become the person that you’ve always wanted to be and live the life that you’ve always wanted to live.

Without it, you would be ineffectively chasing your dreams and holding yourself back from getting to where you need to be.

Don’t get too excited too quickly. Planning out your dream lifestyle is not a thing to be rushed. It’s a thing of beauty to be crafted, and molded to your heart’s content.

I am going to help further help you construct your plan by sharing with you 3 key characteristics of a successful plan.

Are you ready to hear them? Here they are!

Step #1. Devise a Plan That Is VERY Specific

Specificity is…

  • Necessary if you want to avoid having to go back to your plan and making edits
  • NOT OPTIONAL

With that in mind, I want you to take a look at your current plan, which you crafted with me in the third section of my e-book, 3 Steps to Living Your Perfect Day, and I want you to expand upon it.

Let’s say, for example, that one of the aspects of your lifestyle vision is to be able to work from home selling a whole range of beauty products. In response, you wrote something like this:

As soon as possible, I am going to start making my own beauty products, open an online store, and begin selling them.

Do you see what’s wrong with this plan? It’s not exactly a plan.

All you’ve accomplished in writing this down is creating another dream for yourself. It’s not specific and it’s certainly not going to help you do what you want.

How do we change that?

Well, we figure out what it is you have to do to reach your goal.

Map out all the necessary steps, give yourself a time frame, and then rewrite your plan. A finished product may look a little something like this:

By next December, I am going to learn about all the aspects of planning and running a home-based business by doing an online course through Udemy on this topic.

By January, I want to have learned all about the permits, laws, and taxes associated with home-based businesses in my area.

By February, I want to have learned all about how to run a home-based business including marketing, shipping, packaging, etc.

By April, I will have learned to create the beauty products I have in mind and I will have some samples ready for launch.

This is by no means an extensive example and it can certainly be improved but now you understand what we’re looking for.

The better you know what it is you want to do and by when, the easier it will be to accomplish your goals.

Step #2. Make Your Plan Actionable

As I just stated, dates are also necessary when it comes to good planning. In the example above, we have a general monthly date.

However, this will not be acceptable when it comes to crafting your plan.

Your plan should consist of very specific goals followed by exact dates. If we continue using the example above, it may look a little more like this:

January 10th- Call my local city hall and ask them about what is required of home-based business owners in the area. Talk to them about zoning laws, permits, sales tax, and any other information that is necessary for me to know.

January 20th- Look deeper into each of the aspects that were discussed on the phone so I will know what to expect when I register my business in my city.

February 1st- Start taking a 4-week online business class that will help me learn about all of the aspects of running my own business.

March 1st- Research business coaches who have worked in my industry and look into receiving coaching to be prepared for what I will be doing after launch.

You see the pattern here, right?

The more you research your goal and the work that needs to be done in order to reach it, the easier these mini goals will be to come up with.

Even this can be broken down into smaller sections so if you feel as though your goals need to be more tightly scheduled, do it.

Remember, however, that these goals need to absolutely be done by their time frame.

If you fail to meet your deadlines, you may go off course or become so discouraged with yourself that you give up on your ideal lifestyle vision.

Who wants that? Not us!

Step #3. Keep Your Plan Realistic

I think the biggest issue that happens when we are pumped up about our exciting dreams is that we tend to overlook the minute details.

For this person above, they really want to run a home-based business creating beauty products and that’s great.

What may not be so great is if they’re creating this plan and they have absolutely no business experience, money, or experience creating beauty products.

I’m not saying that they won’t be able to reach their goals. What I’m saying is that they need to be more realistic about how they’re going to accomplish them.

If you were this person, I sincerely doubt that the 5-month goal you planned above would be sufficient time to learn everything you need to know.

Although it’s totally possible to get everything done within that timeframe, you have to look deep enough to see if you truly can accomplish it.

    • Do you have the funding?
    • Do you know how to get the funding?
    • Is that really enough time to learn all about how to run a home-based business?
    • Will that one class you are going to take be enough?
    • Do you have the extra money to spend on classes and coaches?
  • Are you in the right place and mindset to launch your business right now?

Asking yourself these questions will help you set realistic goals and give you confidence to make your idea a reality.

It is okay to take a little more time to achieve your dream. It is okay to take only a couple of small steps at a time.

If you could achieve freedom instantly, there wouldn’t be a need for books or a process!

Know yourself and take time to develop a plan that is best suited for you.

    • Maybe you need to extend that time frame from 5-months to 12-months.
    • Maybe you want to take a longer class that will further benefit you.
  • Maybe you want to get in touch with some of your old contacts who may be able to help you.

Whatever it is that you think will be the most beneficial for you, write it down and don’t put yourself down over the time frame or the steps.

The plan, besides being the most important part of cultivating your ideal lifestyle, also tends to be the most difficult.

If you need help crafting it, I definitely recommend that you check out my Plan Your Ideal Freedom Year Online Doing Workshop to achieve all this in 90 minutes or less!

I will show you how to:

  • Phase 1: Setting your vision for 2018 and figuring out your priorities.
  • Phase 2: Mapping out quarterly, monthly, and weekly actions that are aligned with your yearly goals and vision.
  • Phase 3: Helping you craft a Content, Marketing and Editorial calendar that will help you achieve freedom and success. I will give my exact template to use!
  • Phase 4: Teaching you my 6 step daily success plan that will help you unlock your productivity potential.
  • Giving you questions that you need to ask yourself in order to get the most out of my workshop and your year ahead.

On top of all this, I will also be providing you two super valuable bonuses to make sure that you take action straight away.  Head to nataliesisson.com/workshop to get started.

3 Vital Questions To Ask Yourself When Planning Your Ideal Life

I think that we all tend to grow up watching people chase the same stereotypical life plan.

You know that typical path of:

Study at college, get a degree or qualification, work your way up to a high-paying job, get married, have a child, purchase a house with a white picket fence, and be the all-around perfect person that everyone approves of.

Newsflash!

There has never been and never will be one path to happiness, success, and freedom.

We each have a unique road that we must take in order to fulfill our true destiny, and the only way to uncover it is by looking deep within yourself and being brutally honest.

Take a look at your current ideal lifestyle plan that we have crafted together and read between the lines.

What does each action you are taking mean to you?

Why is it that you plan to do what you dream about doing?

Better yet, what do these actions accomplish for you?

You are going to have to ask yourself a lot of questions and evaluate each aspect of your life plan before you even consider moving forward.

It may seem like extra upfront work but it will save you from having to rework your plan and avoid any potential misalignment or damage in your life.

Here are a few questions that I would like you to start with:

#1. Is This Something I Would Enjoy Doing Frequently?

Your life, likes, and tastes are going to change over time. That is inevitable.

However, you should expect a lot of your likes to remain the same for at least a good chunk of your life.

That is why I want you to ask yourself if you would enjoy doing each event frequently.

If you don’t think that you would like working at an office job, or waking up to teach personal training clients at 6am each morning, please don’t put it on your list.

This will just lead to you being unhappy again in the near future.

#2. Once I Finish Working Towards This, Will I Be Happy With My Choice?

Let’s imagine that one of your goals is to become a dance instructor. You absolutely love dancing and you have some positive experience teaching dance to children.

Overall, this seems like a great plan.

However, we need to look to the future. Perhaps this dream of yours is going to take at least five years to achieve due to setup costs, gaining the necessary experience and exposure, and finding the perfect venue for your dancing business.

Flash forward five years from now.

Will all this hard work pay off? Will you still have the burning passion for teach dance that you have now? Will it be worth all the time you have used to get there?

If so, then this is a great dream.

If not, you may need to reconsider your choice. Nothing is worse than working towards something you don’t want in the end.

#3. Will This Make Me Feel Free?

This is the most obvious and the most important question. While we can’t always determine what type of outcome our actions will have, we can estimate how we are going to feel.

Will that beach house make you feel like you are finally free? Will that job that’s paying you six figures annually give you the type of freedom that you are craving?

Answer these questions honestly. If you can truly say that you’ll feel free having that person, place, or position, then it should be fine to keep on your list. For those of you who weren’t able to say that it would make you feel free, evaluate why it didn’t and come up with a better solution.

You can always find your freedom if you come up with the right solution!

The most important thing to remember is that life happens.

Your ideal lifestyle is going to change as you navigate your way through life, develop new interests, and learn new things.

I don’t expect you to construct a life plan that is going to last your entire lifetime. However, I do expect you to relentlessly chase a life in which you can live out your ideal lifestyle daily.

Need some assistance? Then check out my Plan Your Ideal Freedom Year Online Workshop.

In less than 90 minutes with me and I will be helping you to…

  • Phase 1: Setting your vision for 2018 and figuring out your priorities.
  • Phase 2: Mapping out quarterly, monthly, and weekly actions that are aligned with your yearly goals and vision.
  • Phase 3: Helping you craft a Content, Marketing and Editorial calendar that will help you achieve freedom and success. I will give my exact template to use!
  • Phase 4: Teaching you my 6 step daily success plan that will help you unlock your productivity potential.
  • Giving you questions that you need to ask yourself in order to get the most out of my workshop and your year ahead.

Plus, I have included two special bonuses you’ll get immediately when you enroll. Are you ready to craft a life of freedom?

Then make sure you check out my action taking online workshop.

Perfect Your Ideal Lifestyle Vision By Doing These 3 Things

If you’ve been working through the 3 Steps to Living Your Perfect Day Guide with me, you have most likely developed your own ideal lifestyle vision already. You’ve already outlined your goals, your dreams, and the steps you need to take in order to live out this vision.

What you may not have done, however, is eliminate some of the things from your vision that you don’t actually want.

You may be saying:

“Things that I don’t actually want? I created this vision with everything that I wanted Natalie! How could I have something in my vision that I don’t actually want?”

I know, it seems silly to eliminate events and people from your vision. Before you disregard this piece of advice entirely, however, let me explain why this is necessary.

Some of Your Desires May Be a Result of Someone or Something Else

Some of the things that we do in life may be done out of guilt, convenience, or fear rather than out of true desire.

What do I mean by this? Let me give you an example.

Let’s imagine that there is a woman named Gertrude who has been hosting holiday parties for her entire family for the past 10 years.

She has absolutely no desire to speak to most of her family because they judge her and treat her poorly.

She continues to do so, however, because it was something that her mother valued and asked her to do before she passed away. Therefore, she continues keeping her family together during the holidays out of love and respect for her mother.

While it’s wonderful that Gertrude is honoring her mother’s memory, it is doing absolutely nothing for Gertrude.

It is actually harming Gertrude and preventing her from living life on her own terms.

Let’s also assume that Gertrude has also began following me and is attempting to create daily freedom for herself.

She dreams of spending time with her family but soon realizes that this isn’t actually what she wants. She is doing this because she loved her mother and wanted to respect her wishes.

What is my advice for Gertrude?

Cut it out and live life on your own terms!

If you want to be free everyday, you can’t afford to keep things in your life that prevent you from being happy or growing as a human being.

It doesn’t matter what your mother wanted, it doesn’t matter what other people expect of you, and it definitely doesn’t matter what you’ve been trained to believe.

At the end of the day, before you go to sleep, the only person that you have to answer to and live with is yourself.

You OWE it to yourself to make sure that every action you take is the best for you.

That being said, here are three things that you need to eliminate from your ideal lifestyle vision.

#1. Guilt-Related Individuals and Events

Family is something that is valued in our society. We are expected to love them deeply, spend every holiday with them, and do everything that we can from them.

Sometimes, however, these individuals can be poisonous, draining, and unreliable.

Do you have any individuals in your life like that? Did they show up in your vision because you are expected to love them or because you expect yourself to love them?

Here’s what I want you to do: cross them off your list. These people are not worth your time.

Why should you waste your life being with people you don’t want to be with only because it makes you or other people feel better?

The same goes for certain events that may show up in your vision. If your rude aunt Beverly wanted you to live in France and you’re putting it in your vision because it would make your mom happy, scrap it.

We’re not here to make other people happy. We’re here to make YOU happy.

Because a happier you, benefits everyone else you come into contact with.

#2. Events Imagined Out of Convenience

It’s only natural to imagine ourselves at a high-paying tech job instead of performing onstage if we’ve had 20 years of tech experience and absolutely no experience as a performer.

Last time I checked, however, I asked you about what you wanted. I didn’t ask you about what would be the most convenient for you.

Don’t imagine yourself in a job, house, or with a certain person because it’s convenient for you. Take this opportunity and examine yourself and your dreams in a way that you haven’t before. What is it that you really want to do?

It doesn’t matter if you have absolutely no performing experience. You can get there! That’s why I incorporated a planning section in my Guide to Living Your Perfect Day!

#3. Fear-Related Events (or Events Not Listed Because of Fear)

Don’t list events because you’re scared of what might happen if you don’t. Also, don’t forget to list events because you’re scared of what might happen if you actually pursue that specific thing.

Here’s the truth about life: it is filled with scary events. We all will come across an event that ignites fear and anxiety within us. What matters is how we deal with that fear when the time comes.

Can you think of something that sparks fear within you? Can you think of something that you’ve truly wanted to pursue that scares you?

Think about doing that thing or going to that place. I bet that you can find one more feeling hidden deep in that idea.

That feeling is excitement.

If you feel that feeling along with fear, you’ll know that you have something amazing within your grasp.

Evaluate your dreams for these mixed feelings and you’ll find a lot of things that you should have put on your list.

Did you find anything that didn’t fit well with your ideal lifestyle? Awesome!

It doesn’t benefit you to keep these types of people and events in your life. It only prolongs the process and it makes it harder for you to be the best, free version of you that you can be.

If you found this part to be easy and you want to move on but are having some trouble with the process, you should enroll in my Plan Your Ideal Freedom Year Action-Taking Workshop!

This is an online course broken into four phases that will help you plan your upcoming year in 90 minutes or less.

  • Phase 1: Setting your vision for 2018 and figuring out your priorities.
  • Phase 2: Mapping out quarterly, monthly, and weekly actions that are aligned with your yearly goals and vision.
  • Phase 3: Helping you craft a Content, Marketing and Editorial calendar that will help you achieve freedom and success. I will give my exact template to use!
  • Phase 4: Teaching you my 6 step daily success plan that will help you unlock your productivity potential.
  • Giving you questions that you need to ask yourself in order to get the most out of my workshop and your year ahead.

Plus, I you’ll receive two special bonuses when you sign up for my online workshop.