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3 Vital Questions To Ask Yourself When Planning Your Ideal Life

I think that we all tend to grow up watching people chase the same stereotypical life plan.

You know that typical path of:

Study at college, get a degree or qualification, work your way up to a high-paying job, get married, have a child, purchase a house with a white picket fence, and be the all-around perfect person that everyone approves of.

Newsflash!

There has never been and never will be one path to happiness, success, and freedom.

We each have a unique road that we must take in order to fulfill our true destiny, and the only way to uncover it is by looking deep within yourself and being brutally honest.

Take a look at your current ideal lifestyle plan that we have crafted together and read between the lines.

What does each action you are taking mean to you?

Why is it that you plan to do what you dream about doing?

Better yet, what do these actions accomplish for you?

You are going to have to ask yourself a lot of questions and evaluate each aspect of your life plan before you even consider moving forward.

It may seem like extra upfront work but it will save you from having to rework your plan and avoid any potential misalignment or damage in your life.

Here are a few questions that I would like you to start with:

#1. Is This Something I Would Enjoy Doing Frequently?

Your life, likes, and tastes are going to change over time. That is inevitable.

However, you should expect a lot of your likes to remain the same for at least a good chunk of your life.

That is why I want you to ask yourself if you would enjoy doing each event frequently.

If you don’t think that you would like working at an office job, or waking up to teach personal training clients at 6am each morning, please don’t put it on your list.

This will just lead to you being unhappy again in the near future.

#2. Once I Finish Working Towards This, Will I Be Happy With My Choice?

Let’s imagine that one of your goals is to become a dance instructor. You absolutely love dancing and you have some positive experience teaching dance to children.

Overall, this seems like a great plan.

However, we need to look to the future. Perhaps this dream of yours is going to take at least five years to achieve due to setup costs, gaining the necessary experience and exposure, and finding the perfect venue for your dancing business.

Flash forward five years from now.

Will all this hard work pay off? Will you still have the burning passion for teach dance that you have now? Will it be worth all the time you have used to get there?

If so, then this is a great dream.

If not, you may need to reconsider your choice. Nothing is worse than working towards something you don’t want in the end.

#3. Will This Make Me Feel Free?

This is the most obvious and the most important question. While we can’t always determine what type of outcome our actions will have, we can estimate how we are going to feel.

Will that beach house make you feel like you are finally free? Will that job that’s paying you six figures annually give you the type of freedom that you are craving?

Answer these questions honestly. If you can truly say that you’ll feel free having that person, place, or position, then it should be fine to keep on your list. For those of you who weren’t able to say that it would make you feel free, evaluate why it didn’t and come up with a better solution.

You can always find your freedom if you come up with the right solution!

The most important thing to remember is that life happens.

Your ideal lifestyle is going to change as you navigate your way through life, develop new interests, and learn new things.

I don’t expect you to construct a life plan that is going to last your entire lifetime. However, I do expect you to relentlessly chase a life in which you can live out your ideal lifestyle daily.

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In less than 90 minutes with me and I will be helping you to…

  • Phase 1: Setting your vision for 2018 and figuring out your priorities.
  • Phase 2: Mapping out quarterly, monthly, and weekly actions that are aligned with your yearly goals and vision.
  • Phase 3: Helping you craft a Content, Marketing and Editorial calendar that will help you achieve freedom and success. I will give my exact template to use!
  • Phase 4: Teaching you my 6 step daily success plan that will help you unlock your productivity potential.
  • Giving you questions that you need to ask yourself in order to get the most out of my workshop and your year ahead.

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Perfect Your Ideal Lifestyle Vision By Doing These 3 Things

If you’ve been working through the 3 Steps to Living Your Perfect Day Guide with me, you have most likely developed your own ideal lifestyle vision already. You’ve already outlined your goals, your dreams, and the steps you need to take in order to live out this vision.

What you may not have done, however, is eliminate some of the things from your vision that you don’t actually want.

You may be saying:

“Things that I don’t actually want? I created this vision with everything that I wanted Natalie! How could I have something in my vision that I don’t actually want?”

I know, it seems silly to eliminate events and people from your vision. Before you disregard this piece of advice entirely, however, let me explain why this is necessary.

Some of Your Desires May Be a Result of Someone or Something Else

Some of the things that we do in life may be done out of guilt, convenience, or fear rather than out of true desire.

What do I mean by this? Let me give you an example.

Let’s imagine that there is a woman named Gertrude who has been hosting holiday parties for her entire family for the past 10 years.

She has absolutely no desire to speak to most of her family because they judge her and treat her poorly.

She continues to do so, however, because it was something that her mother valued and asked her to do before she passed away. Therefore, she continues keeping her family together during the holidays out of love and respect for her mother.

While it’s wonderful that Gertrude is honoring her mother’s memory, it is doing absolutely nothing for Gertrude.

It is actually harming Gertrude and preventing her from living life on her own terms.

Let’s also assume that Gertrude has also began following me and is attempting to create daily freedom for herself.

She dreams of spending time with her family but soon realizes that this isn’t actually what she wants. She is doing this because she loved her mother and wanted to respect her wishes.

What is my advice for Gertrude?

Cut it out and live life on your own terms!

If you want to be free everyday, you can’t afford to keep things in your life that prevent you from being happy or growing as a human being.

It doesn’t matter what your mother wanted, it doesn’t matter what other people expect of you, and it definitely doesn’t matter what you’ve been trained to believe.

At the end of the day, before you go to sleep, the only person that you have to answer to and live with is yourself.

You OWE it to yourself to make sure that every action you take is the best for you.

That being said, here are three things that you need to eliminate from your ideal lifestyle vision.

#1. Guilt-Related Individuals and Events

Family is something that is valued in our society. We are expected to love them deeply, spend every holiday with them, and do everything that we can from them.

Sometimes, however, these individuals can be poisonous, draining, and unreliable.

Do you have any individuals in your life like that? Did they show up in your vision because you are expected to love them or because you expect yourself to love them?

Here’s what I want you to do: cross them off your list. These people are not worth your time.

Why should you waste your life being with people you don’t want to be with only because it makes you or other people feel better?

The same goes for certain events that may show up in your vision. If your rude aunt Beverly wanted you to live in France and you’re putting it in your vision because it would make your mom happy, scrap it.

We’re not here to make other people happy. We’re here to make YOU happy.

Because a happier you, benefits everyone else you come into contact with.

#2. Events Imagined Out of Convenience

It’s only natural to imagine ourselves at a high-paying tech job instead of performing onstage if we’ve had 20 years of tech experience and absolutely no experience as a performer.

Last time I checked, however, I asked you about what you wanted. I didn’t ask you about what would be the most convenient for you.

Don’t imagine yourself in a job, house, or with a certain person because it’s convenient for you. Take this opportunity and examine yourself and your dreams in a way that you haven’t before. What is it that you really want to do?

It doesn’t matter if you have absolutely no performing experience. You can get there! That’s why I incorporated a planning section in my Guide to Living Your Perfect Day!

#3. Fear-Related Events (or Events Not Listed Because of Fear)

Don’t list events because you’re scared of what might happen if you don’t. Also, don’t forget to list events because you’re scared of what might happen if you actually pursue that specific thing.

Here’s the truth about life: it is filled with scary events. We all will come across an event that ignites fear and anxiety within us. What matters is how we deal with that fear when the time comes.

Can you think of something that sparks fear within you? Can you think of something that you’ve truly wanted to pursue that scares you?

Think about doing that thing or going to that place. I bet that you can find one more feeling hidden deep in that idea.

That feeling is excitement.

If you feel that feeling along with fear, you’ll know that you have something amazing within your grasp.

Evaluate your dreams for these mixed feelings and you’ll find a lot of things that you should have put on your list.

Did you find anything that didn’t fit well with your ideal lifestyle? Awesome!

It doesn’t benefit you to keep these types of people and events in your life. It only prolongs the process and it makes it harder for you to be the best, free version of you that you can be.

If you found this part to be easy and you want to move on but are having some trouble with the process, you should enroll in my Plan Your Ideal Freedom Year Action-Taking Workshop!

This is an online course broken into four phases that will help you plan your upcoming year in 90 minutes or less.

  • Phase 1: Setting your vision for 2018 and figuring out your priorities.
  • Phase 2: Mapping out quarterly, monthly, and weekly actions that are aligned with your yearly goals and vision.
  • Phase 3: Helping you craft a Content, Marketing and Editorial calendar that will help you achieve freedom and success. I will give my exact template to use!
  • Phase 4: Teaching you my 6 step daily success plan that will help you unlock your productivity potential.
  • Giving you questions that you need to ask yourself in order to get the most out of my workshop and your year ahead.

Plus, I you’ll receive two special bonuses when you sign up for my online workshop.

Discovering Your Ideal Lifestyle

In the previous episode, we discussed two major emotions that can hold you back from living out your ideal lifestyle.

Now that you’re prepared for what is to come, we need to discuss the most important question you will encounter along the journey to lifestyle freedom.

What is important to me?!

It’s both extremely simple and extremely complicated. We all seem to know some of the things that are important to us such as maintaining our fitness and cultivating meaningful relationships.

However, very few of us have actually explored some of the most basic human needs and figured out the type of actions we need to take in order to thrive in those aspects of life.

Today, this is what we’ll be discovering together.

Discovering Your Ideal Lifestyle:

Imagine that you’ve woken up one day with the ability to do absolutely whatever you wanted. You have no monetary restrictions, all of your friends and family are ready to join you in your adventures at a moment’s notice, and you are able to travel anywhere with ease.

What would you do?

It’s a difficult question to answer. You may not be able to answer that question because you have never considered lifestyle freedom a possibility before.

Since we were born, we have been surrounded by societal trends such as 40-hour workweeks, flawless bodies that require extensive gym visits, and family lives that are more stressful than fulfilling.

Here’s the truth: It doesn’t have to be this way!

In life, you are your own boss. You control what you do, how you go about it, when you do it, where you do it, and who you do it with.

You may be thinking, Natalie, I do have monetary restrictions and other things holding me back from living my ideal lifestyle!

I understand you completely.

While you may not be able to sit down right now, map out the rest of your life, and make it happen by snapping your fingers, you do have the opportunity to make the choice to start moving into a place of freedom.

Make that choice right here and right now. Take the leap with me and begin your journey to a life of freedom by figuring out what it is that you truly want.

Step 1: Dream, Dream, Dream

Remember the question I asked you earlier about your ideal day? I want you to answer it right now. Most importantly, I need you to answer it as specifically as you possibly can.

For example, this is how I envision my perfect day:

“I wake up in the morning with no alarm and no phone next to my bed and I wake up naturally. I turn to my lover Mr. Josh and I give him lots of kisses, hugs and cuddles.

And then little Kayla, who is not so little anymore comes around my side of the bed in for a cuddle, who just snuffles her nose into my hand and I just lovefeel so much love for my white German Shepherd puppy.

I throw open the curtains and right outside our windows this gorgeous creamy white rose which is just in full bloom right now.

It’s the first thing that I see in the morning with the sunlight coming up and all the trees and the gorgeous greenery in our garden, and looking over to the hills in the distance.

It’s a pretty spectacular way to start the morning and given that it’s spring here right now, the sun is already shining on me. So when I’m on my yoga mat I’m getting heated up by the warmth of the sun.

I typically do about 30 minutes of yoga with Adriene. I recently did a Facebook live about her and I think she is fabulous. She has a free Youtube channel and I just love her yoga.

She’s funny, she’s joyous, she’s grateful and she doesn’t take life too seriously and it’s just a pleasure to do yoga with her.

Then I will roll into anywhere from a 10-30 minute meditation. I’m working my way up into doing more of that and by this stage and really like Joe Dispenza’s work.

Otherwise I will walk to our barn with Josh to do a boxing or crossfit workout in our gym and put on some great motivational music. The sun streams in through the roller doors and the fresh air is magic.

Then I have a lovely hot shower which I am so grateful for.

I go through to the kitchen and typically make breakfast with Josh and make a green smoothie with something really awesome from my garden like kale or spinach that I grabbed after my workout, and then frozen strawberries, blueberries, banana and coconut water .

I also will have visited our five chickens to pick up the fresh eggs so that we can make a delicious omelette, scrambled eggs or poached eggs with avocado and smoked salmon or bacon because breakfast is my favorite meal of the day!

And then and only then, do I actually head over to my laptop and I either set up in the lounge or in the study or out in the coworking barn.

I start working in my most important action of the day which I have typically written up the night before or in that moment into our Project Life (working name) spreadsheet.

We always try and balance this out across the week between the 8 sort of areas of life that are really important.

And that my friend is just the start of my Perfect Day and I am living it right now which is pretty fantastic.

I want you to be able to describe the type of room that you are waking up in. I want you to be able to describe the food that you are eating throughout the day. I need you to be able to envision the exact temperature on the thermostat of the home you are living in.

Why am I asking you to be able to state the exact temperature of your house? While it may not seem important, specificity is key to designing your ideal lifestyle.

In fact, one study conducted by Gary Latham and Edwin Locke found that 90 percent of people who set challenging, specific goals were able to actually meet them rather than those who had simple goals with no direction.

No matter how silly it may seem, think about every possible angle of your perfect day and write it down. You may not need every detail but you will be better prepared for the next step.

Step 2: Determine What Matters Most

Now that you have a better idea of what you would like to be doing with your time, take a look at your list and go through the 5 W’s:

Who- Who was it that you wanted to spend your time with? Did you list your spouse during your perfect day vision? Did some of your old friends crop up while you were daydreaming? Review your notes and come up with a list of the people who appeared most.

What- What were you doing during your ideal day? Were you working from home rather than in an office? Were you working out in your own yoga studio? These actions will help you to identify some of the major areas that you want to focus on in the future.

When- When were you the most active? On the other hand, when were you experiencing the most relaxation? You may find out that you are currently working when you want to be relaxing and relaxing when you are most energetic.

Where- Did you travel? What type of house were you in? What did nature outside of your living area look like? As the saying goes, “if you don’t like where you are, move. You are not a tree.” You may not be happy with where you are currently living and this daydream session will tell you exactly that.

Why- Why are you doing the things that you are doing? If this is your perfect day, you must care about the actions you are taking. Evaluate each action you have written down and ask yourself whether or not you care about the thing you are doing, if it adds value to your life, and if it helps you get towards where you want to be.

Make sure that you have done this thoroughly. Each category helps you to better determine what you will be working towards once you’ve decided to live a life of freedom.

Step 3: Come Up With a Rough Life Sketch

Take what you’ve collected over the past few steps and compile it into a rough plan.

For example, let’s pretend that I’ve come up with my own life vision where I am living in France, running my own clothing business during the day from my large, well-lit apartment, and spending the majority of my time with my friends during the night.

Although this a brief example, I’ve identified who I want to spend my time with, where I want to be, when I want to be doing things, and what I am doing with my time. Why am I doing this?

Clearly, I’ve crafted this plan because I truly want to live in France, I love the idea of running a clothing business from home, and I want to be spending my time with friends who care about me.

This is by no means a list that will help you to reach said goals and lead a free life. Instead, this is the foundation upon which you will build your ideal life.

In episode 3, we will be discussing how to categorize and task out these goals in order to assure complete domination over your ideal lifestyle.

If you want to take your goal setting even further in 2018, and make some real changes that last, then you need to plan your year out differently. And I offer a completely different approach to doing that and setting your goals in my Plan Your Ideal Year Online ‘Doing’ Masterclass .

I show you how to:

  • SET YOUR VISION FOR 2018 and plan out your entire year so you prioritize what matters – we will map this out real-time together and I’ll show you behind the scenes of how I plan out my year.
  • MAP OUT YOUR QUARTERLY, MONTHLY and WEEKLY ACTIONS based on your annual goals and the calendar so you know exactly what to do to achieve amazing results in your business in 2018!
    Take your big vision and plans for 2018 and put them into your OWN CONTENT, MARKETING and
  • EDITORIAL CALENDAR so you feel focused and in control – I’ll show you my calendar as a real example of what’s possible.
  • Learn my 6 STEP DAILY SUCCESS PLAN to become more productive in a week than you are in a year – no seriously.

Make sure you sign up here and get started today. In 90 minutes or less you could have your entire 2018 on track and all planned out for personal and professional success – and of course freedom!

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